YOUR VOICE DETERMINES YOUR LIFE!
That’s why singing is so effective in penetrating our hearts.
Know that, “Your voice is the mirror to your soul.”
How effectively you are using your voice will determine your success in love relationships, business, dreams, career, and every single aspect of life! Your voice transmits your feelings, emotions, hurts, wants, and needs from you to others.
I’ve been a public speaking trainer for the past 28 years, and I’ve noticed that people around the world have more problems communicating now more than ever before. One of the reasons is the emergence of the digital age. We’ve started texting, twitting, and emailing as a way to communicate. Therefore, interpersonal relationships have suffered greatly. A recent survey said that people feel more comfortable expressing their feelings by texting rather than speaking to that person. That is so sad!
I’ve also noticed that people have vocal blocks given to them by their family, friends, or teachers. A vocal block is when you were told to be quiet as a child when you wanted to say something. They made you feel as though you have nothing of value to say. This affects a child’s voice greatly. Another common vocal block is when you were told to stop singing or were severely shamed and ostracized in school for having different opinions!
IMPROVING YOUR VOCAL SKILLS – IMPROVES YOUR LIFE!
When you’re unable to communicate fully you lose a huge part of yourself.
In business having powerful verbal skills are crucial if you want to improve productivity and have a more talented workforce. Only confident communicators can bring clarity and direction to a company. The ability to be a dynamic speaker is a skill you must acquire. A great speaker is someone who can transform the listener not just give them directions or information. This is not an easy thing to do, but with training and practice, one voice can change the world.
How you communicate will determine the quality of your life, relationships and it has the ability to resolve or prevent problems. If you want to be acknowledged you must be heard. This is also a big problem. The sound, tone, loudness, facial expressions, and body language while speaking are all major factors. If we cannot hear you, we don’t care what you are saying.
A speech without emotions and passion i
I want you to express yourself fully because then you will become a better partner, parent, friend, co-worker, and human being. Once you let your inner voice express itself, you will discover your talents, gifts, and ideas.
“One voice at the right pitch can start an avalanche”
Write us at [email protected] and we will send you some exercises you can use to improve the power and effectiveness of your voice.
DYNAMIC SPEAKING AND 9 POWERFUL SPEAKING EXERCISES
Powerful, Effective, and Dynamic speaking, is a skill and an art that must be learned, developed, and practiced daily if you want to achieve greater success. There are a number of tools and techniques that you will need to employ to enhance your communication skills and with time and effort, you can perfect them.
There are two categories of human communication. They are verbal and nonverbal. How well you communicate with both will determine what kind of life you’re going to live. To live the life, you’ve always dreamt of will depend on how effectively you communicate.
Speaking and communicating is like a sport that must be practiced every day. I will give you nine exercises that will help you to improve.
WAKE UP YOUR BODY AND VOICE
Before starting these exercises, warm up your body by doing jumping jacks or running in place, and don’t forget to stretch. WAKE YOUR ENTIRE BODY UP!
Then make your mouth as big as possible and move it around (like your chewing gum) in the circular motion for 5 minutes. Warm up your voice on a hum, use different pitches for your hum. Then once your vocal cords feel sufficiently warm, open your mouth to let your diaphragm support the sounds that are coming out. The weird, stranger, and freer the noises are, the better. If you get louder, ensure you are always supporting your breath from your diaphragm, do not push your breath from your vocal cords.
When you speak, speak from a very positive place. SMILING always helps. Ensure that your voice and sound are focused on the person you are talking to.
BE A WORDSMITH
Expand your VOCABULARY! People judge you by the choice of words you use. Choose them carefully. Try learning 5 interesting new words every day and avoid using slang.
FIND THE POWER OF YOUR VOICE
When you speak, your voice is the primary link between you and your listeners. Every time you address a colleague, friend, significant other, or an audience your mind, body, and voice all play an important role with your listeners. The greatest tool you have as a speaker is having a strong and dynamic presentation.
9 POWERFUL SPEAKING EXERCISES
- Speak for 10 minutes every morning, look in the mirror and tell yourself how amazing you are. Speak until you believe your words and motivate yourself. If you cannot inspire yourself to change, chances, are you will not be able to change anyone else. That means that you have to connect to your energy and passion.
- Talk to someone special about what you want, need, and feel. Use ‘I’ statements like “I need this”, “I want this” and “I feel this.” Expressing personal feelings and emotions are the most difficult. For communication to be powerful it has to be personal and meaningful to you.
- Take singing lessons not just to improve your singing, but to help you find your voice. Singing and taking powerful acting exercises will help you discover what is it that you have to say. What is your unique message to the world?
- Be aware of your body language. When you speak, look into the other person’s eyes, letting them know you care. Keep checking your body language. Your body should be conveying the same message as your words in order to be effective. Notice your breath. Take five breaths and follow each inhale and exhale. Shift your awareness from your breath to your body and begin to scan through the body slowly from head to toe, observing any tension, feelings, or emotions that may be present.
- “Listen with your blood.” Active listening is the most important factor in having a constructive dialogue in business and life. It’s not what you think they said, but what they meant. Try understanding and connecting with other people’s intentions, feelings, needs, and wants. This is called empathy.
- Talk to 3 new people every day. You must be willing to leave your comfort zone for this practice to be effective. Pushing yourself to speak under pressure will improve your ability to speak in any given situation.
- Go into a very busy restaurant or other exclusive places where they require a reservation or an appointment for service. Once they tell you that they cannot accommodate you right at that moment, use your charm, humor, and well-chosen words to convince them into giving you what you requested. This will only work if you do this with love and humility. You will discover that if you put your intention into getting something, you can achieve it. I know that great words and the right energy can change any situation.
- Record yourself reading poetry or text and play it back. Find your diction, articulation, and your vocal power. This is finding the tone, the pitch, and the specific sound that is pleasing to the ear. This is what makes people want to listen to you. Sometimes voices are too nasal or too squeaky and very hard on the ear making them not appealing nor do we want to listen to. The sound you make when you speak is the most crucial factor when communicating.
- Find a rousing or powerful piece of text that you emotionally connect with, which also has deep meaning for you. Read it out aloud every day with energy and power. For example, the “I have a dream” speech by the legendary civil rights leader, Martin Luther King, is a passionate, emotional, and inspiring speech.
“I Have A Dream” (an excerpt from the speech below).
I have a dream that one day this nation will rise up and live out the true meaning of its creed: “We hold these truths to be self-evident; that all men are created equal”…I have a dream that my four little
children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character.
I have a dream today…
I have a dream that one day every valley shall be exalted, every hill and mountain shall be made low, the rough places will be made plain, and the crooked places will be made straight, and the glory of the Lord shall be revealed, and all flesh shall see it together.
With this faith, we will be able to work together, to pray together, to struggle together, to go to jail together, to stand up for freedom together, knowing that we will be free one day. This will be the day when all of God’s children will be able to sing with new meaning, “My country ’tis of thee, sweet land of liberty, of thee I sing. Land where my fathers died, land of the Pilgrims’ pride, from every mountainside, let freedom ring.”
And if America is to be a great nation, this must become true. So let freedom ring from the prodigious hilltops of New Hampshire. Let freedom ring from the mighty mountains of New York. Let freedom ring from the heightening Alleghenies of Pennsylvania! Let freedom ring from the snowcapped Rockies of Colorado! Let freedom ring from the curvaceous slopes of California! But not only that; let freedom ring from Stone Mountain of Georgia! Let freedom ring from Lookout Mountain of Tennessee! Let freedom ring from every hill and molehill of Mississippi. From every mountainside, let freedom ring.
BERNARD HILLER ACTING AND SUCCESS STUDIO
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The average trainer gives out information and advice. However, Bernard believes that “You don’t just need information. You need absolute transformation!” Bernard’s techniques turn you into a dynamic and powerful person that speaks with authority and passion!
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SHOWER THE WORLD WITH GRATITUDE TODAY!
Especially This Year – Find Thanksgiving!
For those of us celebrating Thanksgiving, know what a wonderful holiday it can be. Being human in 2020 has been – well, devastating. However, goodness, kindness, and love are still there.
Giving thanks helps us to recognize and appreciate all the good things we have in our lives. This year, that may be difficult to do. We need to actually take the time and see the blessings and gifts we currently have.
When you live like this, you realize how beautiful the world is to inhabit. Taking this journey will make you feel powerful and energized. When you start living the spirit of Thanksgiving your life instantly gets better.
“Until you love the life you have, you will not be able to have the life you want.”
I am grateful to so many people who have enriched my life this year. A heartfelt thank you to all my organizers, teachers, and special guests whose words and artistry inspire me. I feel so fortunate to know and work with all of you. I could not have accomplished all that I have done without you!
I feel lucky to have such supportive friends and family. And to my wonderful children – David and Dora – you teach me the meaning of love and fun – especially through these hard times.
This year, contact those that matter the most, and let them know how grateful you are for having them in your life. We need to hear these words. They give us the courage to believe that better days are ahead.
If you want to make the world better, be thankful for those around you.
Thanksgiving is a moment to shower the world with love, hope, and gratitude.
I wish you all a healthy, safe, and loving holiday this year.
You Are Special To Me – Never Forget That!
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A Corona Wake Up Call!
A crisis creates isolation and loneliness. Today reach out to your loved ones and talk about Something Else. There will be life after this. Make people laugh, laughing is the great comforter and lets them know, we will overcome this.
HOW TO STAY CALM DURING A PANDEMIC
Millions of people are working from their homes. Schools are closed, large gatherings prohibited and grocery store shelves are empty. And there are some people not taking coronavirus seriously at all. With so many sources of stress and anxiety coming your way, this is too much to cope with. It’s normal to feel extremely overwhelmed when something this global is impacting every part of your life.
“Remember keep finding your center.
For in the eye of the storm, things are calm.”
In this article, I’ve also included the best advice from some of the leading psychiatrists in the field of stress and anxiety management. Fear and uncertainty is always the common response for people who don’t understand what is going on. We feel this threatens our safety and the safety of our loved ones. But don’t give into fear!
This event is impacting everyone around the globe. But this is also a growing moment. An opportunity to bring your family together, and to bring yourself together by realigning your priorities.
Pandemics makes one feel unsafe and resulting with social isolation.
Here are 3 things you can do to survive and thrive during this crisis:
1. Stop watching the news all the time.
There’s a fine line between staying informed and drowning in media panic overdrive.
The more news I watch, the more stressed I become, so please find the off button.
Health officials even say, “give yourself a break.”
Also what you read on social media is often sensationalized to keep you on their site, or just simply false.
2. Look out for others
Life feels out of control right now, so it’s important for you to focus on the things that are within your control, helping to keep your loved ones safe, is something you can do. You could also reach out to an elderly neighbor who may need some groceries.
During crises some people isolate themselves for personal safety. Ok, that’s good! But, it DOESN’T MEAN you shouldn’t call or facetime your friends, co-workers and family. You must stay connected.
Remember after this situation passes. I want you to proud of how you behaved during these trying times. It’s really a test of your humanity.
When you call – please don’t be upset or yell at them. They need your support not for you to increase their stress levels. It’s important that you provide your loved ones some relief. So, talk about other things. Life will eventually get back to normal. Make them laugh, laughter is a great comforter. Let them know we are all in on this together. Stay connected!
3. Become mindful.
Not knowing what the future holds is one of the main reasons why people feel so anxious, so you must now focus on surrendering to the PRESENT. Yes, the Present.
A way to do that is to use meditation techniques or breathing exercises.
After you calm your mind, make a list of all the things to be grateful for.
You have your health, the sun is still shining, you have food, and so much more.
Focus on all the good things that you have in your life right now.
Fear only exists when you can’t live in the grace and beauty of the present.
Surrender and you will find the powerful meaning of these moments.
The whole world is stopping and reassessing itself and that’s good.
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One thing is for sure, this crisis will pass. But it’s important that you monitor how you act during this pandemic.
Reading about how people behaved during the pandemic of 1918, it was sad to know that people turned against each other.
They totally disconnected from their neighbors and friends. But, they felt ashamed of how they behaved afterwards.
Don’t be like them.
During these difficult times, show your kindness, compassion and think how you can help and support one another.
You will feel better about yourself once it’s over.
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With love and passion, Bernard
Who’s going to win the Oscars?
2 Hollywood Insiders tell you!
Perfection is the voice of our oppressor. People who told us as we grew up, that if we were not perfect – we would not be wanted or loved.
Life brings amazing surprises, once you let go of your need for Perfection.
Perfectionism lives in a feeling that you are never good enough, and when you live in that fear, you will never make choices that move you forward. You will miss your life! Actually we were never designed to be perfect.
Only through trial and error can you discover your possibilities.
As an acting coach, I encourage all my artists to show us their imperfection, their humanity on stage, because then, the audience will connect with you.
To succeed you must explore, try and be willing to be imperfect. When you attempt to do something new, of course you will not be great at. Because that’s not the point, it’s the effort that’s important, not the result.
This doesn’t mean that you don’t strive to be your very best. Of course, you do. But strive for being human, not perfect.
Trying to be “perfect” always causes frustration, unhappiness, sadness and eventually feeling like a failure.
You are now adults, and you can choose to let go of the need to perform or behave in a certain way for someone else’s approval. The world becomes a more interesting and fun place when you are free to be YOU. Once you realize this, you can begin to take yourself less seriously and have a lot more joy
“I believe that your imperfections is what makes you perfect.”
Do you want to accomplish more? Do you want to live a happier, more productive and meaningful life?
Now, I often speak about the importance of saying “YES”, but you also have to know when to say NO!
People who are not excited about the quality of their lives have not said “no” enough. Like…
NO – to people who are getting you involved in their drama, so you don’t have time to pursue your own life.
NO – to living in your comfort zones, which is slowly killing your soul every day.
NO – to situations that keep robbing you of your energy.
NO – to your past that doesn’t allow you to live in joy.
NO – to your limited ideas, that you have gotten from others.
NO – to society telling you how you should live your life!
The reason most people feel afraid to say no to others is that they feel they will lose their friend’s or families’ love and affection. Know that true friends and family love you for who you are.
To value yourself more, you must say NO to the things that are just not good for you. You need to create boundaries for yourself. You need to know what is non-negotiable for you. You need to fight with passion for what you want in your life, or you will automatically get what you don’t want.
Do the relationships you have to teach you to believe in yourself more? Does it make you grow? Toxic relationships will kill your talent and your spirit. So, ask yourself:
“Do I feel better or worse after having spent time with that person?”
If it’s worse, then you are letting them take away your power. You will lack energy, be lost, angry, confused and finally sad and depressed.
Knowing when and how to say NO, is one of the most important keys to a happy and meaningful life.
The reason the majority of people never fulfill their dreams or goals is that their basic human needs are not being met.
What does that mean?
Your body and soul are constantly trying to fulfill these visceral needs consciously or subconsciously. What are they?
1. Food And Water
Your body is always in survival mode, constantly monitoring and thinking about food and water – where and when to get it. If you didn’t know when you’ll have your next drink or meal, then that would become your primary goal. You would spend all your time in search of these things and you would not be able to focus on anything else!
2. Clothing And Shelter
What if you didn’t know where you were sleeping tonight? Could you really concentrate on the task at hand? One of the reasons that you feel calm right now, is you know where you are spending the night, and you have things to clothe yourself with. Making money also becomes your focus in order to acquire these basic things.
You can’t live without sleep. Some people may think that sleep is a waste of time. But your body needs it. If you don’t get enough rest, it will destroy your focus and ambition.
4. To Love And Be Loved
We all need love – it is not a choice. You love it because you have to, not because you want to. Your body and mind are constantly trying to connect to others for love.
5. To Be Held And Touched
This is a need that starts from the day you are born. The first thing a doctor does when a baby is born is to put it on the mother’s chest because it needs to be held. Touch is the only sense a child cannot live without because being held and touched is crucial to survival. Are you getting your hugs today?
6. Acknowledging Your Pain
Pain is a messenger that demands your attention. If you feel sad, angry, empty or lost, you are not acknowledging your pain. What most people do is that they just pretend that it doesn’t exist, but your body stores all the pain and traumatic experiences you have had in your entire life. Without acknowledging and releasing those feelings, you cannot move on. It will make you sick and sad.
7. Being Needed
That is really what a family or community is about. A family structure is having the feeling that you are wanted and needed, and that you are stronger together than you can accomplish alone. Being in the right group can help you achieve almost anything.
8. Creating A Life Of Meaning
When you have meaning and purpose in your life, you get up in the morning with an energy that is unstoppable. If you don’t know your purpose, then you are just aimlessly wandering around and you feel weak. The more meaningful your life is, the happier you will be.
We are all born wanting to be happy. An optimist sees possibilities and finds hope in the most difficult of times. Hope makes you believe that everything is possible. Having a dream is not special. What is special, is the person who sees the possibilities in their dreams.
10. Love And Trust Yourself
When you love and trust yourself, you connect to your instincts and follow the messages of your heart. You must learn to love yourself and appreciate everything you have to offer. When you learn to trust yourself, you will know how to live THE DREAM!
Realize that these ten human needs are constantly working to fulfill themselves. When you satisfy these needs, you can focus your energy, power and talent towards your goals.
Excerpt from Bernard’s book “Stop Acting – Start Living”
It’s true. Until you love the life you have, you will never get the life you really want. Most of the people I work with, always complain about their current circumstances. But remember, lack only gets more lack. Come from abundance and watch your life truly change.
Bring love and understanding to your current problems, situations or relationships and feel that all the things that are happening to you, are really a lesson for growth and personal development.
A common misconception is:
“If I had another life, things would be perfect.” – Of course, that is not true!
Know that your new life will come with problems and issues as well. Problems are a part of life; we can never escape that.
If you ever want to lose weight or improve your body, try feeling grateful for the body you have, so you can transform them into a body you could love even more. Bringing hate or anger towards oneself will never transform anything.
Don’t underestimate the power of LOVE.
This may sound like a song title, but it’s so true! Loving yourself more will create miracles in your life! The job you’ve been wanting appears relationships improve or negative ones dissolve. You attract the right people into your life. It’s not selfish to love ourselves, in fact, it allows us to care more about our environment and other people.
During my time, coaching others, I have found that those who came to me, loving their talent and their potential, discovered more of it in their future. So today, love everything you dislike about yourself. Try it. There is magic in that.
Don’t let anyone limit what you can accomplish. The world is full of people that were underestimated, I was one of them. Only when you start loving the training, the difficulties, the limitations and yourself – will you become the person you were meant to be!
Remember, be grateful for the life you have, and thankful for the life and problems you DON’T HAVE.
Yes, being on the road to your success is great, but only if you are making great progress! Now, if you are not moving quickly enough – you will be run over by others who are hungrier than you.
I believe that we are all born with something powerful that resonates within our hearts that needs to be expressed. I know, that If you pursue your gift passionately, the universe will lead you to the people that you need to meet, and information will appear to show you how to get to your next level. The uncertainty of your path will become clearer and clearer. But for all these amazing things to occur you must be in a forward motion.
So don’t wait TO BE READY, start TODAY!
Trust me, you were not given a dream you cannot achieve, but to move along your journey, you will need to ask for help to get new directions and instructions to confront the detours, problems, and obstacles that will cross your path.
Your behavior and the impressions that you give to others will need to be greatly improved and perfected. I know that without continuous dynamic training, your talent or skill will sadly die inside you. Using your gifts and talents will not only give your life meaning but will also inspire others.
Sometimes major roadblocks are the people you surround yourself with.
Show me your friends, and I will show you your future.
Never blame anyone for your lack of happiness or success, because you’re in the driver’s seat!
There will be moments on the journey when you will lose your fuel, energy, or momentum. When that happens, you need to reconnect to your joy, power, and mission, to get yourself back into the express lane as soon as possible!
Negative thinking or others around you will distract you. So keep your eyes on the prize and you will arrive at your destination.
“The only impossible journey is the one you never begin!”
Did you know that opportunities don’t knock? They whisper!
To be in touch with your opportunities you need to have a quiet mind and a sensitive soul. Only by eliminating anger, negativity and sadness will you be able to connect with your opportunities. Otherwise, you will miss them.
“The most expensive thing in life is a missed opportunity.”
You can’t see or touch instincts. They often generate illogical feelings. If you are living in your past or worrying about the future, you will never hear or feel your opportunities coming. Only when you are living in the now are you able to be in touch with them.
Many people are stopped because they hide behind their mind, which will prevent your success. You will especially need to connect to your instincts in order to achieve artistic dreams.
The most common blocks people have is, “I don’t have time”, “I don’t have money”,“I don’t have support.” None of these ideas can stop someone who truly believes in their goals and desires.
When you experience blockage of your instincts, you must ask for help to get solutions for your personal problems. The most dangerous thing you can do is give way to logic and miss opportunities that would’ve brought you to the purpose of your life!
Know that opportunities are everywhere. They come in all shapes and sizes. They come from places you never expected. Reading this newsletter is an opportunity. What you are going to do next will create your future.
Remember, every great idea always comes with an equal amount of negativity and doubts trying to stop you. But what they are really trying to do, is challenge you, to see how much you really want it.
Every time you say yes to your instincts, you say to your life and take one step closer to fulfilling your destiny.
Did you know that you are enrolled in a full-time school called “Life”? It’s true. Each day you are required to learn lessons. You may like the lessons or hate them, but they are part of your curriculum.
Humans have always sought to discover the meaning of their lives. The meaning of life is of course different for every individual. Each person has his/her own purpose and distinctive path, unique and separate from anyone else’s. So, don’t compare your path with anyone else. Focus on what you need to learn.
In order to succeed in your dreams and goals, you will be presented with numerous lessons that you’ll need to learn in order to fulfill your destiny. These lessons are specifically designed just for you. When you experience emotional pain, that is the universe trying to tell you it’s time to change your circumstances or ask for help. If you don’t change, more pain will be sent your way. Pain is life’s messenger to get your attention.
Whether you choose to learn these lessons or not is entirely up to you. If you don’t learn your lessons they will reoccur in your life until you do. You need to remember that you will be faced with lessons that you are capable of learning and helping you grow as a human being. Only when you rise up to these challenges, will you unravel the mystery and potential of your life. These lesson also help you discover astonishing gifts and talents that are within yourself that you never knew you had.
This process is not easy, but the rewards are well worth the struggle. Learn the lessons and become the person you were meant to be.
It’s easy to feel worried, distressed and anxious about the future, when you don’t have a clear direction of where you are going. You believe that your life will continue to unfold with the same old pattern and that nothings going to change. When you live in your limited mind, you believe that you are your “current circumstances.” But the truth is, you are never your current circumstances, you are your possibilities!
“With the eyes of fear you can not see the possibilities of life”
You can believe that the best is yet to come, if you keep learning, growing, having more faith and increasing loving yourself. Realize that if you are still on this earth, your purpose and mission is not over. There are things you still need to do and accomplishments that still awaits you! Planting seeds of opportunities, and tending to their needs makes your future exciting and full of surprises. So, always keep on planting.
Sometimes dark times are actually part of the lessons you had to experience to see the light. Know that happiness, success and love awaits you, once you decide that you deserve more.”Change your perspective, you can change your life.”
Be grateful for all the gifts and miracles life have given you so far, and you’ll be open to receive more in the future.
Art exists as a way to know ourselves.
Sometimes we feel alone, trapped in our own minds. There is a need in all human beings to ease this loneliness by creating bonds with other people by sharing our life experiences and beliefs.
One of the ways we come together is through the performing arts.
We realize that, despite physical appearances, we are all -fundamentally the same in our desires to be loved, understood and accepted. That is why art transcends all race, gender, language, religion and culture. Through art, we share our fears, our desires, our needs, our hopes, our fantasies and our lust.
When we go to a concert, listen to a singer, watch a film or a play that resonates within our soul, we feel as though someone understands us. This results in compassion and a deeper understanding of one another that can heal the world. This, in my opinion, is the greatest gift we can give each other.
Empathy and kindness.
The performing arts are a living tradition, a legacy that must be guarded and maintained with absolute ferocity. I am so grateful that I’ve been given the gift to be an artist. I feel fortunate to be in this industry.
If you’ve been given the gift to be an artist, consider yourself lucky!
Art is also God’s way of saying hello, shouting to you and revealing something glorious about itself.
So, pay attention to music, songs, dance, films and plays. Listen and watch carefully. Art has the power to transform, illuminate, educate, inspire and motivate.
Love art the way art loves life. Remember your life is a work of art as well.
In life you attract not what you want, but who you are! Are you attracting the right opportunities? The right people? To reach your goals or dreams, one of the things you must do is invest in yourself.
You will need lessons. Lots and lots of lessons with teachers who are the best in their field. “You are what you study and who you study with.” Only the right training keeps you ahead of your competition.
It’s been said that to be a professional in ANYTHING, it requires a minimum of 10,000 hours of study. You must know that no one will invest in you until you invest in yourself. And no one will believe in you, if you don’t believe in yourself first!
Investments do not only come in forms of money, but it will always take your energy, time, heart and soul for it to succeed. There is no age limit to becoming the person you where born to be. But, you can’t wait forever either!
You need to make sure that you are taking care of yourself by eating right, exercising and meeting other like minded people – like you. You will need their help and encouragement to achieve anything meaningful. It is crucial that you also take care of your mental well being, by not only being committed but by having fun and laughing a lot. This attitude will give you the energy to overcome the blocks and fears that will come along the way.
You must also seek to learn the latest success techniques. They are powerful tools you will need to achieve anything great!
Try something revolutionary today. Choose to be happy. Yes, happiness is a choice. Happy people are not so held up by their past. Happy people believe in their future! They will find a way to break through this world’s negativity and limitation.
Lastly, invest in finding a mentor. This is a step most people never achieve. Finding a mentor truly transformed my life. A person that brings out the brilliance in you. When you invest in yourself artistically, financially and emotionally, you will become a magnet for others who will want to meet you, to see what you have to offer. Also know that when you become the person you where born to be – you bring more love, joy and kindness to yourself and others.
We live in a digitized world, severed from human contact. Every morning people wake up, and the first thing they do is check their phones, not their loved ones. The sad part is, that we know more about our “facebook friends” activities than our real friends and family.
We spend too much time staring at our screens. No wonder we are now more disconnected from ourselves and other people than ever before. We have also lost contact to our feelings, emotions and have forgotten how to converse with others. We rely on texting or technology to communicate to one another. We are losing FACE TIME with the people we love. This is a tragedy. When we lose human touch we become depressed, lonely and fearful. Statistics have shown that people who spend 4 hours or more in front of their screens are overweight, have less meaningful relationships and less sex drive.
In “Reclaiming Conversation”, it concludes that technology has made us less empathetic towards one another. There is so much anger and hate on the net. The world has become a sadder place. Creativity and deep conversations have suffered from this phenomena as well.
It’s easy to get seduced by technology because it makes everything seem simpler. Want to meet new people? Just make an account on a dating site and meet thousands of people with a simple finger swipe.
Social media allows us to control what we share. It appeals to our vulnerability and our vanity. We only show the images we want others to see. Some have cemented the bars to their own technological prison.
There is hope! We must teach others how to reconnect with our humanity. Call someone today, and ask them to meet you and spend some time together. Human contact is what we all crave for. When you meet these people-give them a hug. Science says we need 5 hugs a day. It’s true. Look into someone’s eyes, and tell them how you feel about them. Laugh, go dancing, take a walk together in nature. Re-discover the beauty of having a real connection with another human being. There is nothing like it. Learn to listen more, only through understanding others can you discover your true self.
Make a human effort, and the rewards are plentiful. I have found, that given a chance, you will find something special in everyone you meet. Making the world better should be your mission, and for me, it’s the meaning and purpose of life.
It’s time to stop just living on the screens of social media and start paying attention to the messages that our bodies are trying to tell us. When you hear the whispers of your dreams and desires, follow them, they will lead you to your bliss.
“An artists job is to remind us of our common humanity”
Whenever artists or business people come to see me, they tell me what their needs are or what they would like to learn. Some are very clear about what they want, others are not. I have realized that, for this learning process to be successful, it can’t be a one-way street. It’s not only what you want from your teacher, but also what your teacher wants from YOU.
I came up with a contract, which states exactly what I need from each student. Finding a great teacher can be difficult, but finding a great student is also difficult.
If you don’t exactly know how be a great “learner” you will not be successful in any class – even if you’re with a brilliant teacher. Sadly, I found that a lot of people are unaware how to really learn, which is why I wrote these specific rules and regulations which if you abide by them, both of us will be successful.
A contract is an agreement between two parties clearly stating what is required.
- I must have the courage to find the real “truth” about myself.
(Most people have no idea who they “truly” are. That’s a big problem.)
- I understand that to achieve my dreams, I must be willing to feel foolish and be uncomfortable.
(You must leave your comfort zones of limiting ideas, if you want something great to happen)
- I know that I will meet people who will not see my gift.
(Know that you will meet people who will not see what’s special about you. First, you have know what’s special about you!)
- I am totally responsible for my career and myself.
(Ask for help. Only you can change anything.)
- I will never complain or blame anyone.
(When you complain or blame anyone, you lose your power.)
- I will be open to embrace new information and new possibilities.
(Live in mystery and be open to what you don’t know.)
- I will bring more joy and love to my lessons every day.
(Without love and joy, your dream or goals will stay an idea.)
- I must be optimistic, especially during the tough times.
(Tough times will come. Successful people are optimistic when others are not.)
- I will learn to trust and believe in my talent and my instincts.
(For your talent to grow, you must feed it. Instincts come from your heart – they’re always right.)
- To be successful you have to be willing to be your authentic self.
(You will know when you are authentic, you feel happy and powerful)
I understand that to achieve any of this, I must first… WAKE UP!!!
Questions have great power, creative power and by asking these questions you will force yourself to profound answers. Close your eyes, take a few deep breaths and repeatedly ask yourself the question out loud or in your head. Then start writing what comes to mind.
With certain answers you might experience sadness or regret, but you will also experience freedom and power.
- When I look into the future are my actions guided by love or fear? Actions of love moves your life forward, actions of fear moves you back into your past.
- How can I add more value and positive energy to others? This will connect you to the right people. This will make you be remembered.
- What has my heart and intuition been telling me that I’ve been ignoring? Instincts are the “miracle” that take you where you want to go. Without miracles in your life, you will not have great success.
- How can I bring more empathy, love and joy to myself and the world? That is your mission in life.
- If I were 90 years old and I was going to give three pieces of advice to my younger self, what would that be? Listen to those answers.
- Do I have someone in my life to say “I love you” to? People that are connected to others live longer.
- Do I love myself as much as I expect others to love me? What actions can I take right now that show that I’m willing to invest in myself.
- Am I asking for enough help? Powerful people always ask for help!